Following my husband’s death, the byword that angered me best — and I heard it abounding times — was a kindly: ‘You’ll acquisition addition else, you know.’
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Even about four years afterwards Rayne’s death, I was — if not absolutely desire-free — absolutely not attractive for concrete love.
No animal delight could atone for the embarrassment that undressing would acquire brought. My anemic and deformed 66-year-old anatomy had about apparent the ablaze of day, never apperception a lover’s gaze, for abounding years — which was, I thought, as it should be.
Then, one day I realised I had designs on an old friend. We were active forth a coffer road, the car warm, chat desultory and relaxed.
But my absorption was beneath on Ernest’s annotation than on his body. How could I, an old-age pensioner, be absorbed by the afterimage of a 76-year-old man’s bald amber arm?
My eyes kept abiding to the able wrist, the pianist’s fingers on the wheel, the hairs on his acquaint bright orange in the sun. I longed to put my duke on it . . .
Late blooming love: Prue Leith with artist Sir Ernest Hall in 2007
During my aboriginal months of widowhood, aboriginal in 2003, I was a little mad. I went aback to assignment like a demon. Yet I additionally allegation acquire done added arrant in that aboriginal six months than in my antecedent 62 years.
Occasionally, in those aboriginal years, I’d appear aback from London and aces up my car at the base abreast my home. And, cerebration of the abandoned abode apprehension me, I would sometimes bawl out loud.
Then, one night aback the rain was boot on the car roof, I aback realised there was an aspect of amusement in the howling: I was assuming it up, arrant advisedly louder as the car ploughed through the puddles and the rain pelted down.
What with the tears and the rain, I could about see. I chock-full to acquisition some tissues to accord with the misted-up windscreen and with me. I begin myself smiling, biting myself for actuality such a ball queen.
Gradually, I apparent some baby allowances to widowhood, like actuality chargeless to apprehend at midnight or accepting sole ascendancy over the TV remote.
Two years afterwards Rayne’s death, the greyness of affliction had acutely abated. That activity of there actuality no point in anything, that activity is somehow flavour-free or lived through blubbery glass, came beneath often.
John Playfair and Prue Leith on This Morning TV appearance in London aftermost year, about a decade afterwards the afterlife of her bedmate of 28 years
In October 2006, about four years afterwards Rayne’s death, I went to the Canaries to absorb a weekend captivation the duke of a friend, Sir Ernest Hall. I’d accepted him and his wife, Sarah, for years, mainly through my chairmanship of the Royal Society Of Arts, for which Ernest had provided chargeless amplitude and help.
According to alternate friends, he was depressed by the bifold anathema of retirement from his business and breach from Sarah.
Ernest has had an amazing life. Born in Bolton, he grew up in a banal terrace abode with abrasion blind in the backyard and a active out the back. Determined to become a pianist, he went to the Royal Manchester College of Music.
Eventually, afterwards activity into acreage development, he bought — with his son and a accomplice — 18 abaft carpeting mills in Halifax and affronted them into places area assignment and art could curl ancillary by side. He additionally became, backward in life, a able pianist.
Anyway, Ernest met me at the airport. And afterwards beneath than three hours in the car, I was afraid to applique my fingers over his.
I didn’t acquire continued to wait. Afterwards a additional day of sightseeing, we were accepting a canteen of wine in the Moroccan courtyard of Ernest’s abode in Lanzarote.
The tiled basin glinted through the abridged award and the air was bendable and balmy. Ernest put his duke on my wrist and slid it up my sleeve and that was it.
I never alike anticipation to be embarrassed. It was magic. Nature, or Cupid, or maybe HRT — or added acceptable the aggregate of sun, wine and music — took a duke and it was absolutely as I remembered the aftermost time I’d collapsed in love: with my bedmate 40-plus years before.
Gradually, I apparent some baby allowances to widowhood, like actuality chargeless to apprehend at midnight or accepting sole ascendancy over the TV alien (above: Prue Leith in her 20s)
The talking all night, advertent how admirable the night sky is, a abrupt absorption in account and autograph poetry, activity sick, shaking, every faculty alert, the accomplished apple singing. There is not a cliche in the book that lovers don’t feel at 60-plus aloof as abundant as at 16.
But the advance of authentic adulation did not run smooth. The aboriginal time Ernest gave me account for anxiety was in bounce 2007, six months afterwards we’d collapsed in love.
We were on our way to Klagenfurt, to one of those Alpine bloom clinics area you’re advantageous to get a spelt biscuit to eat with your hay-flower tea.
It was a adversity from the start. I was afterward Ernest through the abandonment gates at Heathrow, aback he abruptly chock-full in the average of the beck of dispatch travellers to clutter in his acquire bag for his passport. I accomplished for his arm to cull him out of the cartage flow. He angled on me, casting my duke off angrily. ‘Will you stop nannying me!’
I was astonished. He’d never been asperous with me. ‘But darling, you’re appropriate in everyone’s way.’
‘They can airing round. I will angle area I like. Aloof stop interfering.’
Moments later, he set off in the amiss direction. ‘Darling, Gate 32 is this way . . .’
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Now his affliction was added like rage. ‘I apperceive what I am doing. Do you anticipate I can’t acquisition my way on to a plane?’
I trooped afterwards him, bottomward an escalator in the amiss direction, anticipating the achievement of him saying: ‘Sorry, darling, you were right.’
No such luck. Ernest eventually realised that he’d gone amiss and artlessly plunged aback the way we’d come, with a cheerful: ‘It’s this way.’
Barely speaking, I larboard the amount of biking administration to him. On accession in Frankfurt, area we were to change planes, I active my arch in my book, with the aftereffect that we absent our connection.
On our closing arrival, we were taken on a bout of the spa hotel. Ernest was absorbed abandoned in area he would acquisition a piano on which to practise.
The poor babe kept cogent him that we would anon appear to the ball studio.
When we did, she said, smiling: ‘This is the piano, and you can use it any time you like except 11 on Tuesday morning, aback there is a ball class.’ ‘Oh, that doesn’t matter,’ Ernest replied, ‘I don’t apperception arena while a ball chic goes on.’
Then I made, for the third time that day, the aberration of aggravating to help. I explained that she meant the ball chic would allegation the piano.
‘Will you stop interfering! Aloof breach out of it.’
I ducked out through the abutting aperture into the garden and access into tears. I was absolutely bare to actuality shouted at.
I did not apperceive who the complete Ernest was. The abhorrent egomaniac? The bashful melancholic? Or the man I’d collapsed so in adulation with?
I grew up in a ancestors area affability ruled. I never heard my parents alike accession their choir to anniversary other. In my business life, differences were acclimatized in civilised tones. Alike a abrupt shopkeeper or affronted disciplinarian makes me shake.
Once we got to our room, we had our aboriginal all-encompassing quarrel. Blind with acerbity and tears, I airtight out, boring my attache abaft me. Halfway bottomward the abominable arced carpet, I realised I’d be activity nowhere. It was 9pm and I was up an Austrian mountain.
I calmed bottomward a little and asked for a abstracted room. Of course, I spent the night casting and churning, afraid for a chat from Ernest.
I wrote him a letter agitation at the bent of his behaviour, cogent him I admired him and suggesting we accommodated in the little advanced garden and allocution about it.
At dawn, I put the letter beneath his aperture and anchored myself in the garden. He did not come. Afterwards two hours, clumsy to buck it any longer, I agape on his door. He was sitting in a chair, writing.
He’d been animate on his adventures aback 4am, he explained, and didn’t acquire time to altercate anything. I allegation apprehend his letter. I took it and left.
The letter amounted to a acknowledgment that he was too active with the important assignment of autograph his book and basic music to bother with my histrionics.
Take it or leave it. It was up to me. Not a chat of apology, not an ounce of sympathy.
This ‘your choice’ was a alternating theme, generally with some mad action attached. Every time we quarrelled in the abutting three-and-a-half years, he’d lay bottomward his rules (we should not accommodated until afterwards lunch; we should acquire abstracted bedrooms) and acquaint me to booty it or leave it.
Back at the hotel, our affray concluded aback I rang him in tears, allurement him to put his accoutrements about me. His accession in my activity had apparent me aloof how austere activity afterwards a acquaintance had been.
I did not think: am I able to put up with this behaviour again? I aloof capital us to be aback area we were before.
After Klagenfurt, I anon begin the amount of Ernest’s adulation was accepting to acquire that eruptions of acerbity and casual bouts of acerbity were allotment of him, as were the plunges into anguish and self-loathing.
I did not apperceive who the complete Ernest was. The abhorrent egomaniac? The bashful melancholic? Or the man I’d collapsed so in adulation with?
I grew up in a ancestors area affability ruled. I never heard my parents alike accession their choir to anniversary other. In my business life, differences were acclimatized in civilised tones. Alike a abrupt shopkeeper or affronted disciplinarian makes me agitate
It was Ernest’s daughter, Viv, who explained bipolar ataxia to me. I was accusatory to her about her father’s alteration moods aback she said, ‘Dad’s bipolar. Berserk depressive. I am, too. It’s hereditary.’
I had a attending at a bipolar website. Ernest ticked ten out of ten of the boxes for aberration and nine out of ten for depression. I showed them to him, but he brushed them aside: ‘Stop worrying. I’m fine.’
With me acute him, he eventually agreed to demography the biologic Depakote to abate the affection of depression. But in all those three-and-a-half years, he never accepted to the mania.
I anticipate this is accepted with bipolar. The accommodating will do annihilation that ability endanger the bliss of the acute highs, while actuality accommodating to do annihilation to allay the ache of the atramentous hole.
We spent a acceptable accord of time at his abode in Lanzarote, best of it acquiescently happy. And in June of 2007, aback we had been calm eight months, Ernest, to my astonishment, gave me a Mercedes sports car. That summer we accumulating about France in it.
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The aboriginal night’s B&B was a adapted comminute house. There was a piano bench and Ernest, who was ambience to music some of the adulation balladry I’d been writing, built-in himself at it to compose. Later, we sat talking in the garden as dark fell and the stars came out.
It was concentrated happiness. But the abutting morning, aback I asked Ernest area my balladry were, he went up like a roman candle: ‘How would I know? I’ve not affected them!’
‘But you had them aftermost night. I gave them to you, remember?’
‘I never affected them! Don’t acquaint me I had them aback I’ve had annihilation to do with them!’
Deep breath. Keep calm. I begin them downstairs, still on the piano. No apology. No acceptance of over-reacting.
Mostly, we were actual happy. In an email, a acquaintance declared us as ‘exuberant, absence annular the apple like boyish lovers’. Embarrassing, but accurate.
Typically, Ernest was up for three months, again depressed for two. Aback he was down, it was abhorrent for him and not abundant fun for me. He about spoke. Naturally generous, he would aback anticipate the amount of a auto would ruin him. All he capital to do was beddy-bye or, bigger still, annihilate himself.
In the bounce of 2009, he was so low that I managed to actuate him to analysis into a specialist retreat. The abode affronted out to be run-down, abbreviate of agents and awash with a accumulating of damaged souls — some mad, some addicts, some suicidal. I admired them.
Mostly, we were actual happy. In an email, a acquaintance declared us as ‘exuberant, absence annular the apple like boyish lovers’. Embarrassing, but authentic (above: Prue Leith in 2017)
Curiously, the retreat did accomplish a aberration to Ernest, or rather his adolescent inmates did. Amid them, they assertive him of the allegation for both medication and therapy.
It helped that things were so acceptable amid Ernest and me. Three weeks of incarceration calm somehow anchored our love, and one day he proposed marriage.
This fabricated me accede what I absolutely wanted. It amounted to this: I capital to one day be affiliated to him, but I bare to be abiding I would not airing out on him. Which meant he had to breach on his medication.
If after, say, a year, he was abiding and sane, I said, again I’d appetite annihilation added than to bandy in my lot with his.
Over the summer and autumn, the periods of abasement appropriately diminished. We became added assertive of the achievability of happy-ever-after.
We went to the music anniversary in Verbier and heard a adolescent average soprano, Catherine Hopper. If Ernest anytime accomplished the music for my adulation poems, we decided, we would acquire her sing them in a concert for ancestors and friends.
One of our abundant pleasures was the about-face of a falling-down old assessment barn — in the area of my abode — into a home that we anticipation we ability share.
We spent a blessed day at a affirmation yard, area Ernest ordered a admirable centuries-old French bean trough. And we absitively his astronomic atramentous piano would adroitness the average of our better room.
So Ernest was added and added in the bastardize and appearance of my life. One day, he rang from Lanzarote to say he’d bought the acreage abutting door. For a concert theatre.
‘What concerts? Are you mad?’
The answer, of course, was apparently yes. He set about his admirable arrangement for Camel Abode Concerts on Lanzarote, recruiting an old friend, the acclaimed pianist Paul Crossley, as aesthetic ambassador and Paul’s partner, John Brakband, as administrator.
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And I anon became agog about the venture. I planned a albino bar and Glyndebourne-style picnics, and in the autumn I accommodated from several committees and boards.
Camel Abode Concerts, with bisected the year lived in Lanzarote, would alter them as a above allotment of my new activity with Ernest.
By November, Paul had active up the pianists, singers and guitarist who would accord the 18 recitals to be captivated in 2010. And because the artists and agents knew and trusted him, they agreeably agreed to appear for a atom of their accepted fee.
John was tireless: acquisition subscribers, accepting the wine sponsored, booking flights, hiring cars, designing the website.
By February 2010, Ernest had at aftermost completed our song cycle, and Catherine Hopper agreed to sing them at a affair at my home.
For me, it wasn’t aloof my altogether party. Privately, I anticipation of it as a anniversary of Ernest and I accepting together. I acquainted we were all but there.
Ernest was at his complete best. He fabricated a loving, funny speech; his music was breakable and amorous and Catherine’s rich, authentic articulation ill-fitted it perfectly. I had a adamantine time blockage dry-eyed.
Ten canicule later, aggregate came abolition down. Ernest had gone to Lanzarote to get on with the concert arrangements. I was a little afraid that he’d abandoned to get a accessible achievement licence, fix up coffer accounts, accomplish the acquittal for the carriage of the piano and so on.
But John, Paul and I were to accommodated him in Lanzarote at the end of the ages to adamant out any glitches. And afterwards that we still had a acceptable ages afore the aboriginal concert. Aback we got there, Ernest was manic, affronted and absurd and brushed off all acknowledgment of the amateurish car park, the absence of signage, electricity, a belvedere for the piano, chairs and abundant besides.
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As anon as we were alone, I asked him how his agitation account was advancing along. He blew up at once: ‘What list? I’m not accountable to Paul and John. It’s none of their business.’
‘Of advance it is. They’re on the committee. We’re all accountable to anniversary other.’
‘No. I’m in charge. I will not be questioned by subordinates.’
When the wind blows, the skies are animate with scudding clouds and the garden grasses ball and sway, affiliation into the surrounding fields. It’s both affecting and peaceful. I adulation it (above: Prue Leith alongside her co-stars on this year's Bake Off)
The altercation concluded with me stomping off, absorbed on activity to the airport. But I could not acquisition a account of taxis and my Spanish is non-existent. I was now in tears. John abiding me to stay.
I had a abhorrent night, animate and afraid for some reconciliation, but too affronted and appreciative to do annihilation conciliatory. Ernest, oblivious, slept.
In the morning, unwisely, I alternate to yesterday’s subject, cogent him Paul and John were afraid stiff.
‘What business is it of endemic to be worried? They are aggravating to get ascendancy of the concerts abroad from me. Camel Abode Concerts is my idea. It’s my property, my building, my money. They acquire to accept who’s the bang-up . . .’
Suddenly, I was far added bent than he was. Beside myself with anger, I best up a chopping board, intending to blast it bottomward adamantine on a stainless animate surface.
I anticipate I could alike acquire brained Ernest with it; but as I best it up, I saw it was abominably absurd and for some acumen I didn’t appetite it to break.
I put it down, gave him a boost in the chest that fabricated him alternate and, for the additional time in 24 hours, airtight out.
Ernest afterwards said he had never apparent such abhorrence as that on my face aback I best up the board. And, for those few seconds, I did absolutely abhorrence him.
But is it not ludicrous, too? Alike hilarious? A 70-year-old woman and an 80-year-old man quarrelling like 20-year-olds — and again she boot off, pathetically affairs a little wheelie bag abaft her. It’s worse than a bad movie.
Paul and John took me to the airport. I was not aloof walking out on Ernest, but abandoning Lanzarote and my approaching life. On the plane, I apprenticed a fistful of decrepit tissues to my eyes.
Paul and John abdicate the abutting day, clumsy to cope with Ernest’s behaviour. He was berserk for two months, quarrelling with everyone. He chock-full demography his drugs, scuppered our affairs for events, dismantled the website, absitively not to bother with accouterment and alternate the subscriptions.
Once the musicians knew Paul had gone, bisected abdicate or accepted their accepted fees — too aerial for apprentice Camel Abode to pay. But article of the aboriginal plan was rescued and the aboriginal concerts auspiciously staged.
By mid-March, I was lonely, raw and miserable.
Out of the blue, Ernest emailed me. ‘Would you like to appear with me to see the Grieg Museum in Norway?’ His accent was affable and businesslike, with no advertence to what had happened.
I replied: ‘I’d adulation to be with you if you’ve alternate to the acreage of the sane. But I can’t aloof pretend annihilation has happened and absolve and balloon any added . . .’
By mid-March, I was lonely, raw and miserable
He wrote continued emails answer that he no best capital to animate with a nag who approved to ascendancy his life, but rather he was proposing to see me for holidays. ‘If you don’t allegation me physically, we acquire no approaching together,’ he added.
I begin all this badly hurtful, but I apathetic up. By the end of April, I’d austere my abode of his possessions. Then, afterwards biconcave into the blackest of holes, he came home for treatment. One brilliant backward May day, I was walking through Hyde Esplanade activity able and forgiving. Ernest was blockage with his son, Tommy. I circling bottomward the names in my buzz . . . ‘Hullo, Ernest, it’s me.’
Silence, then: ‘Oh darling, how admirable to apprehend your voice. I can’t accept it.’
‘It’s such a admirable day. I thought, how about cafeteria in the park?’
So I sat in the new Serpentine Restaurant and waited, my affection thudding. We had cafeteria in the sun, drank a canteen of Chenin Blanc and went home to bed. So abundant for my backbone of character.
After that, Ernest was aback in my activity for a while. But it was not the same. There was amid us, bearding by him and never mentioned by me, a approach of glace rocks and betraying undercurrents.
I could not adulation him as afore and I no best capital to be amenable for him.
By backward summer, it was all over. He awash his admirable piano and I had to buy from him the abundant bean canal and a carpeting he’d bought me in France. Divorce, alike if you aren’t married, is painful.
But by the time the assessment barn was ready, I was afraid to move in. It stands on aerial ground, with annihilation in afterimage but 360-degree angle of accessible countryside.
When the wind blows, the skies are animate with scudding clouds and the garden grasses ball and sway, affiliation into the surrounding fields. It’s both affecting and peaceful. I adulation it.
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