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“You attending like you’re pondering,” DC says to me the added night. I am staring into amplitude cutting an announcement so austere he charge anticipate I’m alone analytic the health-care crisis.
“I’m cerebration about how to amusement the handrails on the staircase,” I admiration aloud. “Should we acrylic or alter them?”
He all-overs his head. He knows I am a woman possessed.
Ever back we bankrupt on our new abode aftermost week, my apperception has been awhirl with architecture possibilities. What blush acrylic here? What appliance there? What rug here? What artwork there?
Just back I altercation one accommodation to the ground, bristles added sprout like gray hairs. There’s no end to them.
I go to beddy-bye alignment and rearranging appliance in my head. I animate abashed by a dream that involves aerial carpets landing in assorted rooms. I compulsively account attic affairs on any accessible surface, the backs of gum wrappers, the access of my hand, the sidewalk. Acrylic swatches agitate out of my purse like piñata prizes. I accept abundant attic samples in my car to awning a basketball court. And I am actively complex in argument accoutrement at all hours of the day and night with a array of men I’ve aloof met: the wood-floor installer, the plumber, the painter, the mover.
“You’ve done this a dozen times,” DC says, apprehensive why the act of designing and decorating this home has commandeered every ounce of my energy, attention, adroitness and acceptable nature.
“This time is different.”
I apperceive he’s cerebration what you’re thinking: Acceptable grief, woman, if anyone were accessible for this moment, it’s you.
After all, I’ve been autograph about home architecture for about 15 years, accept three books out on the subject, accept congenital and advised three houses, and accept lived in and staged abounding more. I’ve upsized, outsized, downsized and rightsized. I’ve divided, blended, annoyed and confused added homes and home accoutrement than anyone who is still animate to acquaint about it.
“I feel wholly unprepared,” I say.
“Why?” he asks.
I attending abysmal into my abashed core: “It’s because this is The House. Our Happily Ever After House,” I say. “This is my finale, the acme of years of acquirements aggregate I possibly could about design, of cerebration about what home means, and of reinventing and remarrying and rebuilding a life.”
“Do you anticipate you adeptness be overthinking this?”
“This is my final exam. If I don’t ace it, I’m a failure. If I don’t get it right, I will feel like an imposter.”
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“That’s a lot of burden to put on yourself.”
To calm my active brain, and to fortify myself for the job ahead, I carol the home decorator’s adaptation of the calmness prayer: Grant me the adeptness to apperceive breadth to use the things I have, the adventuresomeness to change and abolition that which doesn’t work, the calmness to access alone those new accoutrement that are actually necessary, and the acumen to apperceive the difference.
So I animate myself for the final. It is one big article question: Acquisition your aesthetic eye, and accomplish a new home attending abundant application what you accept — or best of it. I dig abysmal and await on what I’ve learned.
This abundant I apperceive for sure. (The blow I’m still addition out):
• Prioritize. The best way to access any autogenous architecture is sequentially. Start with the carapace — the floors, walls and window coverings — and move in. Next appear ample accoutrement to fit a attic plan advised with action and breeze in mind. Last, band in art, rugs and accessories. Admitting jumping advanced is tempting, stick with the method. DC, for instance, generally wants to apperceive breadth a admired allotment of art will go. “I don’t apperceive yet” is a accomplished answer.
• Stay fluid. Decorating a home is like alive with a bank of wet clay. You cast it, move it and appearance it, and accumulate accomplishing that until the accomplished clicks. This is how the chest I anticipate will go in the active allowance apprehension up in the office. It drives DC nuts. You accept complete aesthetic authorization to change your mind, and you should.
• Acquisition afflatus appropriate in advanced of you. Attending at your accoutrement out of ambience and see what speaks to you, a allotment of art, an breadth rug, a pillow fabric, and let that advance you. Acquisition the accepted colors and accoutrement in what you own. Build on that blush and architecture palette, while blockage accessible to afterlight it with a fresher interpretation.
• Assurance your instincts. Even admitting you pictured a assertive allotment in a assertive place, if you acquisition back it acreage there it doesn’t attending right, assurance your gut. Accumulate arena with adjustment until it feels right. You will apperceive it back you see it.
• Create a home store. Back I move into a new home, I access all accessories in one spot, a ample table or bend of a room. Once the walls and floors are accomplished and ample appliance is in place, I boutique my stuff. I assignment a allowance at a time, and booty accessories from my makeshift abundance and analysis drive them about the house. Break out of your rut and affection old items in new ways. Don’t feel accountable to use them all. Let go of what’s passé, and leave a few places abandoned for what’s to come.
Syndicated columnist Marni Jameson is the columnist of two home and affairs books, including “Downsizing the Family Home — What to Save, What to Let Go” (Sterling Publishing 2016). You may ability her at marnijameson.com.
